Why do men like holding their partner’s heads during blowjobs?
After wondering why I sometimes hate men holding my head while I am sucking them, and why I sometimes prefer them holding my head while sucking them, these are my results as of why or why not!
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Blowjobs
90% of men adore when their partners give them a blowjob.
There are many ways of blowjobs, which is an art full of diversity. Therefore, there is a great range of blowjob positions starting from the most traditional one, with a relaxed man lying on his back, where a partner gives the maximum level of sucking sensations exciting the lying male partner.
Primarily, a blowjob position directly-proportionally depends on your partner’s preferences, thus, take in mind all his feelings and desires. The blowjob involves using the hands and mouth, fingers, skilled tongue and even breast caress his penis gently combined with a tongue touching the penis. Many women consider blowjob as something insufferable. This is because, sometimes men force too much pressure and strength in positions of pure domination putting women entirely under their control that they do with them everything they want, for example sucking in a female prisoner position, which can be unbearable.
These men adoring this kind of blowjob think it’s cool, as it insinuate the art of domination and aggression, to imply hardcore sex, or when they are hoping to force deep-throat.
However, holding your partner’s head at the wrong time during sex might upset your partner, because sex isn’t all about domination, aggression and hard-core art.
In fact, sex doesn’t always have to be hardcore and aggressive, which is what you present when you pin someone’s head with your dick in her mouth, while sucking you, forcing your dick deeper while choking her until she gags or vomit! .
Better Not, Moments!
In my point of view, there are moments when you shouldn't hold the head of your partner during blowjobs. These are moments when you, as a guy are in restrained position, as in, in a stagnant position where you can’t move while your partner is sucking your dick. Don’t hold her (his- if gay) head then. For example, when you are in these positions.
These could be positions when you are lying down or sitting for a blowjob, where you, as the receiver can’t move while the doer is performing the blowjob.
The Art of Blowjob
Generally, a blowjob is an act of friction and motion on a dick through mouth (oral), including lips and tongue. That means, just like sex, there is no fun without movement/friction. But, it’s best if ONLY ONE of the sex partner, either the doer (pitcher) or the receiver (catcher), creates the friction on the dick.
So the best blowjob is when only one of the performing sex partner is creating the friction, and NOT both. Therefore, there should be a doer and a receiver of the blowjob enjoyment, and not both moving at the same time to create the blowjob friction.
When Not To Hold Head During Blowjobs: The Receiver Feeling
When you are lying or sitting, thus not on a moving position, the person sucking (the doer)’s head shouldn't be hold or pressed. Let the person slide her mouth, lips and tongue through/on your dick without interactions.
When you force her to take your whole dick deep in her mouth by holding and pushing her head down through your dick, when the force on her head is too strong, she can’t move up and down to create the friction needed to make a blowjob enjoyable, as you can’t move, as well to make the friction since you are lying or sitting on a hard surface.
So your dick will be moving down her throat ending up chocking her and she can’t decide when to move up and gasp some air as you are blocking her, which is very uncomfortable.
Of course it’s not a nice feeling to the person being chocked. Also, you can’t enjoy the person’s art of sucking as you are blocking and interrupting her from doing her way or skill of sucking. That’s why you shouldn’t hold someone sucking your dick’s head.
When You Should Hold Head During Blowjobs: Doer Feeling
But there are moments women’s heads need to be restrained to have a good blowjob. For example, when you are doing the mouth-fuck.
Then, if you don’t hold the woman’s head, you will have a mouth-fuck with a feeling of hitting a Piñata. That’s why you have to hold and restrain her head. So, then you become the doer (pitcher), and she is the receiver (catcher), and below are some examples.
In short, when a man is enjoying a blowjob in positions where he can move, such as mouth-fuck positions on his knees, squatting or standing, he becomes the doer and he should hold the woman’s head, and the blowjob becomes the mouth-fuck. Without holding her head the result won’t be that enjoyable, since mouth-fuck works best by stopping or reducing woman’s head motion/movement.
Here, he should be dominating and he is in control, and he has to show his domination power, otherwise he will look boring or lacking manly sex controlling skills.